Category Archives: pride

Asking for Help

This “moving forward” journey that I’m on is uncharted territory for me, something that I’ve never done before. I’m green — a novice. It’s a new experience! By me being a beginner, it’s obvious that I’ll need insight, some guidance, and some help. Therefore, I must not let my pride stop me from seeking help, but there are times when I struggle with asking for help. That wretched pride!!

In my mind, asking for help means I’m openly admitting to another person that I need their help. Admitting that I need help (in my mind) makes me vulnerable and at their disposal. When I ask someone for help, I am giving up my control, my power and giving it all to someone else. Now, that person has the power and control to say “nay or yea”…………..and I have a problem with that!

Consequently, every now and then, instead of asking for help, I foolishly walk away and try to do it all on my own. See where the problem lies? I walk away from someone who could potentially be placed in my path, by God, to be the help that I need. How foolish?!!

This can be said about the Christian life. The Christian life is about relinquishing our control, our power, our will. The Believer openly admits that she or he needs help (Rom. 10:10) (Ps. 32:5). With confession, we’re admitting we are vulnerable, sinful people who need God’s help. We need to be saved from our sins; we need a Savior and that’s when Jesus comes in!

“If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is by believing in your heart that you are made right with God, and it is by confessing with your mouth that you are saved.” (Rom. 10:9-10, NLT)

On the other hand, there are some who struggle with asking for help, to be saved. Their pride and foolish thinking won’t allow them to truly see that they need help from a loving God. They think the message of the cross, redemption, and the world being saved by one man (because of love’s sake) is foolish(1 Cor. 1:18-20, NLT).

As humans, we cannot live this life without God. He didn’t make us this way. Without God we’re lost, sinful people, headed for destruction. But God is our Creator and we need Him!! We need His help to live a life on full!!

Sisters, it’s ok to ask for help. Jesus Christ is standing by waiting for us to ask for His help. He will guide us and direct us, and give us everything we need for our journey (even if it means connecting us to the right person).

Your Sis and Encourager,
Rhovonda L. Brown

Co-founder/Co-pastor of The Sanctuary Christian Fellowship Church
Founder/Executive Director of Martha & Mary Ministries, Walking in Freedom!
Founder/President of The Pillar of Hope

If I Must Brag-Pt2


In chapter 11 and 12 of 2 Corinthians, Paul bravely does what most leaders are too afraid to do and many avoid. He brags about his weaknesses. He could have bragged about being a great theologian who was a Pharisee and a son of a Pharisee. Paul could have boasted about the many churches he had planted and the mass number of souls he had converted into Believers. Paul could have proudly celebrated and bragged about all the great things God had done through him. Instead of boasting about his numerous accomplishments, Paul chose to brag about his weaknesses. Paul shares with the Corinthian church his struggles, his setbacks, his trials, his tribulations, and those things he experienced for the sake of Christ.


Paul says, “If I must brag, I will brag about the things that show I am weak” (2 Cor. 11:30, NCV). And why in the world would this great leader do such a crazy thing? Why talk about his weaknesses? Why share with others how flawed you are? Why open our mouths and disclose our imperfections and inadequacies? Here’s why:


“So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me.” (2 Cor. 12:9b, NLT)


When we’re weak, that’s when Christ’s power can be seen. When we acknowledge our limitations, that’s when God can be made BIG. When we rejoice in God and in humility, we share our struggles with others, then the dunamis – the Greek word for power, which means force, miraculous power, ability, abundance, might strength, mighty wonderful work – of Christ can live through us! Now, that’s POWER!! When we realize that apart from God, you and I can’t do anything, that’s when His POWER rests upon us. His miraculous POWER is seen. Our weaknesses remind us that we only exist because of Him. Our weakness displays humility. And humility, my sister, is a sign of submission. Once we submit to God, we surrender our will and power to Him. Then, God is glorified in our weaknesses. He’s made BIG. Wow!!


The fact is we’re all weak. Our sin makes us weak. We all fall short; for all have sinned (Rom. 3:23). We cannot live this life without God’s help, without His dunamis. We need rescuing. We need His help and we’re in need of a Savior. We need Jesus! He’s our lifeline, who bore our infirmities and weaknesses on the cross (Isaiah 53). Hallelujah! Therefore, my sisters, we don’t have to be afraid or embarrassed or ashamed to share our weaknesses. We don’t have to keep our mouths closed about our story. Our testimony (the good, the bad, and the ugly) will encourage others to triumph over their situation. Our story will remind someone else that God is faithful. Our struggles will push us to our knees, in humble submission, totally depending on our mighty God.


So, go ahead. Brag, if you must! But brag about your weaknesses. Let’s brag about our limitations. Let us boast about how desperately we need Jesus’ help. When Satan comes to condemn us – which he will – let’s resist him by saying, “The weaker I get, the stronger I become because God’s POWER lives in me!”


It’s Wednesday, Hump Day! Rejoice in our weaknesses, so Christ’s dunamis power can be seen!


Now I take limitations in stride, and with good cheer, these limitations that cut me down to size—abuse, accidents, opposition, bad breaks. I just let Christ take over! And so the weaker I get, the stronger I become. (2 Cor. 12:10, MSG)


During your quiet time, meditate on today’s scriptures. Be motivated to be a godly leader for Christ who is not ashamed to show her weaknesses.
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Sitting on Top of the World

 “For he will be great in the sight of the Lord; and he will drink no wine or liquor, and he will be filled with the Holy Spirit while yet in his mother’s womb. 16-And he will turn many of the sons of Israel back to the Lord their God. It is he who will go as a forerunner before Him in the spirit and power of Elijah, TO TURN THE HEARTS OF THE FATHERS BACK TO THE CHILDREN, and the disobedient to the attitude of the righteous, so as to make ready a people prepared for the Lord.” (Luke 1:15-17, NASB)

Some would say John the Baptist had a lot of weight on his shoulders, he being the forerunner for Christ. John the Baptist came preparing the way for Jesus Christ, “…preaching a baptism of life-change leading to forgiveness of sins” (Luke 3, MSG). Some may even say, because of his office given by God, John the Baptist had reason to become prideful, arrogant, and get the BIG head. On the contrary, scripture does not make any note of John seeing the task given to him as burdensome nor did he allow his position to give room to boasting.

In fact, John the Baptist showed humility when asked if he was the Messiah “John answered, saying to all, “I indeed baptize you with water; but One mightier than I is coming, whose sandal strap I am not worthy to loose. He will baptize you with the Holy Spirit and fire…” (Luke 3:16, NKJV). When the disciples made a big deal about the people not coming to John the Baptist, but going to Jesus to be baptized, in meekness John replied, “He must increase, but I must decrease….” (John 3:30, NKJV)

Maybe God has placed you in a position that, according to the world’s standard, you should boast, you should toot your own horn, or you should sing your own praises. Maybe your role demands high esteem, honor, and accolades from the people. Maybe your skills, talents, achievements, educational background has allowed you to become conceited, arrogant, and your head has become swollen with pride. Maybe, just maybe, you have the “I did” mentality (…I did this, I did that, and look what I did….). If we’re in that place, let’s be careful!

“First pride, then the crash — the bigger the ego, the harder the fall.” (Proverbs 16:18, MSG)

Sisters, let’s be careful not to allow the position we are in to produce seeds of vanity and haughtiness, but let’s remain humble following the examples of John the Baptist by keeping the mind of Christ. Christ, the King, came to serve and to give His life (Matt. 20:28). And so must we.

“Don’t love the world’s ways. Don’t love the world’s goods. Love of the world squeezes out love for the Father. Practically everything that goes on in the world—wanting your own way, wanting everything for yourself, wanting to appear important—has nothing to do with the Father. It just isolates you from him. The world and all its wanting, wanting, wanting is on the way out—but whoever does what God wants is set for eternity.” (1 John 2:15-17, MSG)

Pray this prayer with me: Father, forgive me for being so arrogant with the abilities You have blessed me with. Burn away and remove everything that is not like You. In humility, I empty myself to you. Lord, I ask that You increase in my life, as I decrease. I love You. Thank You for Your mercy and Your forgives. In Jesus’ name, amen.

During your Quiet Time, MEDITATE  on God’s Word and keep walking in freedom!

Rhovonda L. Brown is speaker and author of two bestsellers, Walking in Freedom!: A Thirty-Day Devotional Journey for Women and At Least Say, “Thank You!”: An 8-Day Devotional Plan for a Grateful Heart. 

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